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Have you ever tried to break yourself of a bad habit? More powerful than a bad habit, have you ever tried to free yourself from an addiction? I have. Have you tried to stop many times? I did, too. I would swear to myself that I would quit and the next thing you know, I’d have an emotional moment or a drink and I’d break my promise.

That would start the vicious cycle of self-sabotage/self-loathing all over again. I would then find myself worse off (emotionally and spiritually) than before I even made the attempt to quit.

Bad habits and addictions zap our ability to move forward in life. Since this is the time of year for resolutions, it’s the perfect time to give it up!

So after more than 20 years of smoking, I finally quit. Sounds easy to say now, but the reality is far from it. Smoking took up way too much of my life. I couldn’t do certain tasks without a cigarette. I wouldn’t go anywhere without them. I made other activities wait until I went somewhere to purchase them.

I didn’t like the way it smelled and the smell was everywhere, on my breath, my clothing, my car, my house; you get the idea. The constancy of the odor became a metaphor for just how deeply smoking had become ingrained in my life, indeed, it had permeated my life. And the really crazy part about all of this? More often than not, I didn’t even enjoy smoking.

So like lots of other people, I tried to quit. Many times. And I always ended up smoking again. Finally, during yet another attempt to quit, I took a smoker’s profile test to see if I could find out what it was that attracted me to smoking in the first place. I learned from it that I was a social smoker, meaning that I mostly smoked when I was with other people.

This information was like striking gold because I saw for the first time how I didn’t have the courage to decline a smoke offered by a friend for fear that they wouldn’t like me anymore. Our human connection was partly bonded through our smoking experience; would there still be a connection if I took that bond away?

One day as I was having a smoker’s coughing spell, I suddenly heard the words of one of my mentors: “If you want to be a leader you have to give up the need to be right.” It was one of those moments when I knew I had heard a personal truth because of how it resonated in my soul.

I repeated the words to myself once again and decided at that moment that I had to give up my people pleasing ways because I saw clearly just how destructive it was. Not only was I risking my health by smoking, but I was also letting my perception of what others might or might not think about me be the barometer by which I made all my life decisions.

To this day, that moment remains an indelible mark on my brain. That was the day I decided to put myself in charge of my life.

That doesn’t mean it was all down hill from there. I still had the withdrawal symptoms to deal with. For me, the power of prayer took them all away. Solid scientific research has been done on prayer and the startling results showing measurable and reproducible benefits that can’t be explained by any traditional scientific understanding. 12-step programs also claim the belief in a power greater than self as the bedrock of their programs.

Not only is there documented evidence about the benefits of prayer, but my own experience with it makes me highly recommend it for help with letting go of self-destructive habits.

In addition to the withdrawal, I also had to substitute healthier activities for my old habits and learn how to deal with people being unhappy about my decision(s). Leaders make decisions. When you are a decision maker you must realize that many people will call that decision wrong.

Look at the president of the United States. No matter who’s in office, half of the people will disagree with whatever decision is made. Look around. Few people are willing to step up to a leadership position but they are the ones who endure the brunt of public criticism.

The day I decided to take charge of my life I stopped trying to fit in with the status quo. I became the leader of my own life. I decided that it was okay to make my own decisions, okay to be wrong, okay if others didn’t like my decisions, and okay if I lost a few smoking buddies as a result. What I gained was so much bigger than all of that. Plus, I haven’t had a cigarette since!

What do you need to be right about? What bad habit do you need to give up? Are you willing to give up relationships that are held together by bad habits? I AM!

Action ~ realize that you are a person of CHOICE, one who can choose to do what is right for yourself. Remember that even those who claim to love us have their own reasons for wanting us to stay in our comfort zone.

After you’ve made the decision to be the leader in your own life, pray. Pray for freedom from your destructive habit and strength to withstand the pressure of the void. You’ll be glad you did.

Diann S. Cannon, ACC is a certified Business and Personal Coach for independent professionals and small business owners. She is also a successful corporate speaker and facilitator. Contact Diann at diann@signalscoach.com or visit her website at http://www.signalscoach.com.

Gaining focus and maintaining concentration on school, work, or whatever your goal is quite a challenge for most people. Both things however are important if you wish to attain your objectives efficiently and effectively.

Know What You Want.

It is impossible for you to gain focus and concentration if you do not know what you want. Be as specific as possible when describing your goals to yourself. If you know exactly what you want, the better you will be able to focus and concentrate on getting what you want.

Multi-Tasking Are for Computers

And you are not a computer, are you? Since you are not, then do not expect your mind to be able to work like one. Even Einstein had to concentrate on the nuclear bomb exclusively before moving on to something elseless dangerous.

If you wish to be able to accomplish your goal, you need to take things one step at a time.

Divide, Organize, and Conquer.

In relation to doing things one at a time, the best way to gain focus and concentration is by dividing a huge task into smaller sections. Then, you can focus and concentrate on accomplishing one section after another. If you have a project to work on, divide it into sections such as planning, gathering for resources, implementing the changes, and so forth.

If you do it that way, the next thing you know you have already completed the task way before the time allotted for you.

Expect Resistance.

Life is never smooth sailing for anyone in this world, not even for Bill Gates. As such, be prepared beforehand to encounter resistance of sorts to completing your goals. Distraction comes in all shapes and sizes, so it could be anything that would threaten your focus on concentration.

Knowing however that there will be an obstacle to overcome will already help you conquer whatever challenge you are facing and resume your focus and concentration.

Gaining Focus and Concentration Takes Time.

Do not fool yourself into thinking that you will gain instant success the first time you try to follow these tips. Sure, it is possible for that to happen but it is even more possible that it will not. If you have trouble gaining focus and concentration, do not feel worried and give up immediately because what you are going through is normal.

As time passes however, you will see that gaining focus and concentration gets easier every time.

Focus and Concentration are not for Free.

You will always have to give up something to make room for something better. In this case, the price of focus and concentration may just be about anything but its most probably the one thing that causes you the most distraction.

For some, it could be using the telephone during work hours while for some it is their inner struggle for self-confidence.

Do Today What You Can Do Tomorrow.

In simple terms: avoid procrastinating. The earlier you start working on your goals, the better you will be able to gain focus and concentration. If you leave things too late, you will end up being stressed, pressured, and bothered by the ticking deadline. If you work early on the other hand, you will be more able to focus and concentrate because there is nothing else to worry about except to get the job done.

Once you do develop the right habits to be able to gain focus and concentration easily then do not take your ability for granted. Practice, practice, and practice some more!

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Sometimes the best secrets are hidden in plain sight. When it comes to developing confidence, there is one “secret shortcut” that took me years to understand, but it’s so painfully obvious that I want to kick myself sometimes for not being aware of it all along. The “secret” I want to tell to you about is acceptance.

Understanding the importance of acceptance requires a little creative thinking. It is important to remember that confidence is never an “all or nothing” situation. We all have confidence to some degree, but it is a fact that some people have much more that than others. It is also a fact, that no matter how low your self-esteem may be right now, you do have some confidence. So it’s a sliding scale, and just for the sake of argument, let’s say that the confidence scale goes from one to ten, with one being least confident and ten being supremely confident.

To further make this point, let’s say that right now your confidence level is a three on this scale, and your friend’s confidence is a six on the same scale. Now, it’s obvious that your friend is twice as confident as you, but at the same time his confidence level is still only a six out of ten, so it certainly could be a lot higher and your friend is very aware of this.

Now here is where the power of acceptance comes into the picture. Imagine that your friend, whose confidence level is a six, feels very bad about himself because his confidence isn’t higher. But let’s say that, unlike your friend, you understand that your confidence level is low, but you feel OK about that, and you’re not judging yourself because of it. In effect, you are saying “my confidence level “is what it is” and I feel perfectly comfortable with that.”

Now, who is going to be perceived as being more confident, you or your friend? YOU ARE! Every single time. Because if you accept your confidence level (no matter what it is) and are perfectly comfortable with it, you are going to come across as much more confident than your friend who does not accept his confidence level. You see how this works?

Another way of saying this would be, no matter what your confidence level is, accepting it and being comfortable with it will instantly make you more confident! Are you having an “aha” moment yet? I know I did when i first began to really “get” this idea. And the irony is, this is such a simple idea. Nevertheless, I overlooked this critical point for many years. Maybe you have too…

But once you understand the importance of acceptance, you can use this knowledge to immediately boost your confidence. All you need to do is begin where you are right now and make it a point to accept your current situation and your current level of confidence. Do NOT feel frustrated with yourself or your situation. Begin with a good feeling about where you are right now at this very minute. After a day or two of thinking this way, you will definitely notice a difference. When you begin any confidence building program from the point of view of acceptance, you are certain to see greater results in less time.

But be warned, if you begin trying to make changes in your life from a position of frustration, or self disapproval, you will find it much more difficult to create the results you want. Find a way to make peace with yourself and your situation where you are right now. Remember, the key to the whole thing is to start by accepting yourself just as you are right now. You absolutely can do this, and it WILL make a difference. Every single time.

Jon Mercer is a personal development coach and the founder of UltraConfidence.com. Click here to learn Jon’s method of building real confidence quickly!

When it comes to money, most of us were raised to believe there is a lack of abundance in the world–a limited amount of money and resources that we must fight over like rats competing over scraps of cheese.

Not that many years ago, I had this same belief. I remember when I first read The Science of Getting Rich, by Wallace Wattles. This classic work is based on the philosophy of Monism which claims there is no limit to the abundance of the world, and whatever appears in our lives is the merely the result of our habitual way of thinking.

At the time, I was definitely not ready to hear this, and my logical mind began to ridicule the idea as superstitious mumbo jumbo. But the more I learned about the mind, and the power our subconscious mind, I slowly began to understand that we do create our own lives: we create our own limitations; and we create our own success, failure, luck, and yes, even our own wealth.

As I studied more and moved beyond the initial disbelief, it became clear that I needed to make some changes in my life-I began to see that I had created my life exactly as it was (both the good and the bad), and in order to get a different result, I would need to create something different.

One of my first steps was to begin replacing my old belief in lack and limitation with a new belief in abundance and infinite potential, and this required me to take a (sometimes unpleasant) look at the habits I had developed over the years.

I had grown very accustomed to looking at the world, myself and money in a certain way. We all do this to some point-we “settle” on a particular way of seeing the world (our paradigm) and go about our lives without thinking about it much it all.

I came to see that I was running on autopilot the majority of the time. My beliefs and habits did not always serve me very well, but I was comfortable with them, like an old faded blanket, so I simply allowed the “program” to run, unquestioned.

But in order to change my habitual way of “seeing” the world, I had to replace my old way of thinking with new habits and new beliefs. And the primary way I achieved this was by repetition.

Repetition is how humans learn everything. Think about driving a car: you practice over and over until you don’t have to think about it any longer-at that point you are simply running on autopilot-your subconscious mind has taken over and you have internalized the new habits and beliefs.

The more often we remind ourselves of our new habits and beliefs, the quicker we assimilate them into our life, and one very effective way of speeding up this process is through the practice of visualization. Try this simple exercise:

When you first wake in the morning, sit in meditation for a few minutes. Visualize your life exactly as you would like it too be, including the income you would like to have. Remind yourself that there is no lack-no limitation. Become the abundance that is all around you.

And then at night as you are ready to fall asleep, visualize the same abundance and success in your life, and express gratitude that this abundance is already on its way to you.

Finally, I recommend making a gratitude list everyday (even 4-5 times a day if you have time!). Gratitude is the easiest way to bring abundance into your life. It pushes all the right abundance “buttons” when you focus your attention on what you are grateful for, and brings you into harmony with the good that you want.

Gratitude is a part of nearly all wealth attractions methods, and with good reason: it works! Make it your habit to never let the sun go down without giving thanks for what is good and right in your life. And you don’t always have to write it down-make a mental gratitude list if you like. I often do this in the car or while waiting for an appointment.

In fact, I’ve made gratitude lists for so long now that I tend to do it everyday automatically. Through repetition, gratitude has become my habitual way of thinking, and so my mind automatically turns to the subject without having to think much about it.

You see, this autopilot thing can actually work for you, as well as against you. Through repetition, you decide what your “autopilot” will be set on: lack and limitation, or prosperity and wealth. As always, the choice is entirely yours.

Jon Mercer (PDC) teaches regular people to attract extraordinary wealth! Click here to learn Jon’s secret method of attracting the life of your dreams! a>

To have prosperity in life you must understand the Law of Attraction. Everything in your life was invited, created and attracted by you through your thoughts, words and emotions. You actually Designed Your Life. Some people are not aware of it and are actually kind of scared when they realize that they are responsible for their lives. All of the good and what you might call bad things were attracted to you by you.

We all have conscious choices, but most of us are not aware that we make them. We think that life just happened. We forget that we are creators by nature. That is how our Supreme Being created us. We have to take responsibility for our lives and attract what we desire. We are responsible for our thoughts, our feelings, and for every result we get. If someone does something to us, we are responsible for how we react to the situation. We are in control of all our situations, even if we are out of control, we are responsible for that too.

Once a thought or idea is accepted as truth by our conscious mind, it acts upon those thoughts and beliefs as though it were our reality. We really are the creators or designers of our lives. We are unconsciously creating our lives by default, or we consciously design our lives. All of the things that you think about, speak about, write about, you bring about, whether it is positive or negative. You have to take control of the things that you are creating in your life. We breathe life into all of our thoughts and ideas so we have to be mindful of our thoughts and spoken word.

If you do not like the things that are happening in your life, you have to change your thoughts. That is the only way that you can change your reality. Remember that it is the dominant thought that brings about your reality. To change your thoughts from what is occurring right now in your reality you might have to tell yourself the opposite of what is happening. If you tell yourself a lie long enough it will become your reality. One day when you do not feel so great, yell out at the top of your lungs and wave your hands in the air and say, I Feel Superfantastic. Say it with a smile on your face, even if it is a fake smile. Continue saying it until you feel better. I guarantee that after saying it about five times, you will shake the sticky spirit off that once existed. That is an example of telling yourself a lie or the opposite of how you really feel and the new thoughts or words becoming your reality.

I said all of this to say that you can deliberately choose what you desire or you can allow it to happen by default. You can think that life is a series of random events that you have no control over, or you can take responsibility for your lives and make them happen. If you are tired of just letting things happen, starts slowing down your thought processes enough so that you are not always reacting to situations, but you are responding to them. You actually have a choice in what you are going to think, what you are going to say, and how you are going to respond to events that occur in your life.

Dr. Rorree Tillman is an author, Transformational Life Coach, and Shakti Healer.
She has written Recipe for Prosperity and The Prosperity Formula.
With Dr. Tillman you will manifest your desires, heal emotionally, physically, and financially.
http://www.RorreeTillman.com

Focusing your thoughts to imagine a better life works. For decades I have tested and studied and worked in my own life and with many clients and friends to experience over and over that mind power is effective. Very effective.

You attract more and more of what you focus on. When you use your thoughts to focus it can be laser sharp. When you charge those thoughts with feelings, those feelings can color the manifestation of those thoughts.

Buddha has said that all that we are arises from our thoughts. This article is not about proving that thought power works incredibly. This article is to help you from my extensive experience, For me to help you to realize that WHEN you succeed to apply a method or technique to imagine an improvement in your life it will have an effect. And that effect which is caused by your action will have an impact on you.

That impact is what often is experienced as what I am calling the crisis of change.

The more powerful the results that you realize from your work with mind power to make your dreams come true in real life, the more you are at risk to experience the side effects and dangers of change shock.

Lets take the example of someone who is in a relationship, who applies a technique to visualize and imagine they have a better relationship. Then they meet someone and start a better relationship. And suddenly the old relationship is ending and all the stress and adaptation and fears and insecurities about starting a new relationship are part of the experience of this person we are imagining here.

Or someone imagines that they have a new job. And they get a new job. And that means a whole new adaptation to a whole new situation.

A person who imagines a lot more money, and they get it, and now they have to figure out a new tax situation and relate to people differently and shopping is a new and more demanding experience!

At one time I got a new computer and my idea was to switch from my old computer to my new better faster computer. My imagination to manifest a new computer worked brilliantly. Now I had two computers and imagined working with them both in a whole new setup. It turned out that as much as I liked the new situation it was a lot of work to make the changeover and it took a lot of time and I did not realize how much I had got comfortable with the way I had the old computer set up. Change shock.

The main purpose of my writing this today is so that you can simply realize that change shock exists. So that you prepare for it. So that when you imagine something new and better in your life, you also imagine that the surrounding conditions are supportive and easy. For example when I imagine a new car I imagine that the fuel, and insurance, and parking, and maintenance are all taken care of too.

Jorj
Elprehzleinn is a happy spiritual being having a human experience
in the material world. His
techniques, insights, and assistance in the right use of thought and
mind power are based on a lifetime of research and personal experience.

I want you to try to return to your cradle. Do you remember the time when you lay in the cradle kicking up your toes - and possibly kicking up a row at the same time?

Do you remember the time when you were taking your first lesson in walking, and the floor seemed to wobble a good deal, and you tried to steady things by balancing yourself a little heavily on one leg and then on the other, and finally finished up by making a slight dent in the linoleum with the point of your poor little nose?

Do you remember the time when you had an idea that anything and everything in this world existed simply and solely for your special purposes, and that all you had to do in order to obtain your desire at all times was to put out your hands for it? And if you did not get just what you put your hands out for, and have your wish immediately gratified, how you would yell with an extremely great lustiness, and keep up the din until you were practically exhausted?

Do you remember the time when you first went to school, and some other little boy (or some other little girl) made faces at you, or threw mud at you, or did something else similarly mean, so that you had an overpowering realization that this is a wicked, wicked world indeed; and that there is only one place within the vast confines of this vale of woe where any God’s child can ever expect to exist in peace and comfort, and this place was at your mother’s knee - a place where by snuggling you could shut out the bad exterior world from your vision?

Probably you do not remember any of these things; nevertheless, no memories are lost. The memories of every experience which we have undergone from the cradle are stored in the great unconscious mind; and many of these memories can be recalled under certain conditions and by certain procedures.

By means of the analytic method we now know that our temperamental characteristics and general mental attitudes are what they are solely by reason of the influences of this vast deposit of buried memories. We know, also, that our conscious conduct is largely motivated by these buried memories. We know, in fact, that we think as we do, and feel as we do, wholly by reason of the existence of these stupendous unconscious influences.

You have heard such terms as subconscious mind, unconscious mind, subliminal mind, and various other sorts of minds. Let us simplify things by considering the two very matter-of-fact terms conscious and unconscious.

The conscious mind needs no special definition, for we will consider it in the ordinary sense in which the term is used - to mean the reasoning faculties. By the term unconscious, psychoanalysts mean anything and everything that is not conscious.

Please don’t think of the term unconscious as an adjective, however. When I use the term unconscious I do not mean an unconscious mental condition, but a mental place.

Every memory that becomes stored in the unconscious has some intensifying or neutralizing influence on previously stored memories of similar complexion; and every time that you have held a thought in the consciousness in relation to a memory (thinking), you have produced a certain modification of some sort or other on this stored mental material. The thoughts that come up into the consciousness as a result of a stirring up by means of attention are therefore derived from these tremendous possibilities.

The consciousness is only a very puny mental area in comparison with the vast extent of unconscious thought activities existing beneath it. Not a billionth part of the memories of past experiences is available for direct utilization; nevertheless they all influence the conscious conduct - directly or indirectly. In fact, these influences constitute the actual foundations of the personality.

The results of conscious attention in liberating memories in the unconscious mental storehouse are governed wholly by what are in reality mechanical processes; nevertheless the nature and extent of these possibilities are fabulous.

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